premarital counseling

virtual premarital counseling in San Diego, LA, OC, the Bay and beyond

You’re contemplating taking the next step in your relationship, or perhaps you have just gotten engaged. Premarital counseling isn’t just for couples with problems - it’s one of the most proactive investments you can make before marriage. Together, we will explore communication styles, conflict patterns, values, intimacy, and how you will navigate big life decisions as a team. I use the Gottman method to help you build a strong foundation so you are not just prepared for the wedding but for marriage.

Topics we can discuss in premarital counseling:

  • How you’d like to approach big life decisions

  • What values are most important to each of you

  • Strengthen intimacy, friendship, and connection

  • Explore your communication styles and conflict patterns

Premarital counseling is a way to invest in your relationship proactively by having the conversations now.

Premarital counseling in California:

I work with couples using Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy informed methods: Two of the most research backed approaches for couples work.

  • Gottman method focuses on building friendship, managing conflict constructively, and creating shared meaning. It gives couples concrete tools: how to raise a concern without it becoming an attack, how to better understand your partner, and how to repair after rupture.

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy goes deeper into the attachment patterns underneath what is being expressed. As a premarital couple, understanding these patterns before marriage can deepen connection and create secure attachment.

I am LGBTQ+ affirming and welcome couples of all sexualities and gender expressions.